trauma response

  • Slow Isn’t Boring When It Feels Like Safety

    I don’t know how to explain it. The way I feel pulled toward you, even when I’m doing everything I can to keep my distance. It’s not about fear of you – it’s what you bring up in me. You… Continue reading

    Slow Isn’t Boring When It Feels Like Safety
  • Where the Shaking Comes From

    I used to spiral when it happened. The tight chest. The sudden urge to flee a room that felt perfectly safe a second ago. I’d call myself dramatic. Weak. I’d ask what was wrong with me, why I couldn’t just… Continue reading

    Where the Shaking Comes From
  • Frozen Without Warning

    It’s hard to explain how fast it changes. I can be fully present – listening, laughing, even making eye contact – and then suddenly, something in me goes quiet. It doesn’t always take a trigger. Sometimes it’s just a tone,… Continue reading

    Frozen Without Warning
  • Every Yes Costs Me Something

    What they don’t see is the hesitation sitting in my chest before I even open the message. The way my heart races while my fingers hover over the keyboard. The way I read the same invitation three times, weighing every… Continue reading

    Every Yes Costs Me Something
  • What Time Can’t Touch

    They say time heals. And maybe, on the surface, it does. Maybe the days stretch out just long enough to soften the sharpest edges, to make it easier to speak without your voice shaking, to carry the weight without dropping… Continue reading

    What Time Can’t Touch